BOSSMOM Nation x Next Round Kids:

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Well hello! So nice of you to take a minute and join us :) Shah here, it's been a while since we've shared in this blog space. We've taken some time to reflect on where we began, where we are and where we're headed. Today's post is all about the arrival of my soon to be 4th child!! Major!! And the way we gathered to celebrate while giving back.

Quick Story: I met Juanita, (pictured above to the right) the founder of Next Round Kids, a few years ago while we were both volunteering as hairstylist with Sol Sisters Organization. We connected, lost touch, then reconnected through social media. We planned a day to meet & catch up, while chatting she shared with me that she'd started a non-profit organization "to empower families by providing free clothing to families and building a network of support that will help bridge the economic gaps in our families and community."  As a wife and mother of 2, she made time to create a cause with reach and impact in our local community. I was very impressed! From that point on we stayed connected and I kept her in my thoughts to support when I could.

Fast forward to the inspiration behind my baby shower gather/sprinkle/celebration...I haven't had interest or felt the need to have a baby shower after my first born. And I had ZERO plans to switch things up the 4th time around. Until...the idea come up to use this as an opportunity to invite out my local "mama tribe" to meet, celebrate, and donate our gently used maternity and kids clothing. Like myself, I figured most moms have clothes that our children have grown out of and we're in need of a reason to clear them from their closets. This was the perfect time to collaborate with Juanita! I shared the idea with her and made it happen :)

 

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The entire day was a group effort! I couldn't and wouldn't have done any of this without my peeps! Starting with this delectable spread supplied by Good Eggs, they were founded in August 2011 in the Mission district of San Francisco with the mission to help grow and sustain local food systems, worldwide. Good Stuff!

My girl Malika Yasmin laid things out so effortlessly, not to mention the fruit infused, super refreshing sparkling water drink she made. Take me back to this spread please!!

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I enjoyed the company of mamas and children running around freely. We laughed, shared stories and the different stages of motherhood we're experiencing. It was just as easy-breezy fancy free as I imagined :)


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Me with this lovely mama, Brandi Riley from "Mama Knows It All Blog" we conversed online for a little over a year and finally met in person! I love when that happens, don't you?! Also let's take a minute to appreciate the amazing floral arrangement made by my sweet friend Crystal Cara. She outdid herself!


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Young sisterhood in the making...


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Between the support from my tribe, the gift of giving, and my super comfy custom fit dress by my good friend Taylor of Taylor Jay Collection, I couldn't have asked for better vibes. I left the day feeling so full of goodness. Cheers to continued growth and support within my motherhood community and beyond.

With Love, Shah :)


Photography by: Kimberly Daley of Arayaace Photography

Mama Issues: "Self-care in Motherhood"

Self-care in Motherhood

I didn't expect motherhood to spark such a flame in my spirit. This journey for so many mamas is a self learning experience. I've found hidden truths about myself, I never knew I could have unconditional love for another human. With all the yelling and the outrageous tantrums I encounter daily. Theres the common cool down stage after a meltdown, and I look into the eyes of my child and see myself, and within that moment, I am more in need of my child's love, kisses and hugs,than she probably is for mine. 

 

The challenges some mothers go through is trying to get to a space where they can love themselves as much as their children love them. If we could look through the eyes of our offspring, and see what they see in us; you know this big world that they truly believe we can conquer? Then our confidence would be through the roof. The woman that has now redefined herself through motherhood, deserves to know her worth. You are worthy of self care, and you don't need anyone to validate that for you. It's important to demand what you want and need so that your space of fear, depression and anxiety is replaced with magic peace and positive energy.

 

Daughter, sister and friend are titles we are born with. The title 'mother', also known as creator, is something we are blessed enough to add to more reasons of why we have purpose on this planet. While we're all these powerful and compassionate beings, we have to remember we are also our own person, and yes we take care of the people associated with our titles, but when does self care come to play? Take lead in the title 'ME' because who you are is vital. We mustn't forget a relationship that is so important that if it fails, all other titles we posses cannot prosper to be great. It's the relationship we have with ourselves. Make time for you! I know you're busy right? I get it. Start off with something small, check in with your emotions, say out loud how you're feeling, and be honest with yourself while doing so. Simply sit still, with your favorite album on repeat. Moisturize places on your body you would normally rush.

 

It's not selfish to indulge in yourself, learn more about your ways, your truths and your body. Forget those dirty dishes and put on your finest robe, light candles, as many as you want. Burn enough to draw the light from within your soul. Fill up the bathtub as the steam from the water rises, add your favorite soap that stimulates your senses. And as you step in, release all the weight from your day and let it flow down the drain. 

 

You deserve happiness, your child deserves a mother at peace and a gem with her most precious inwards. It wasn't until my journey in motherhood that I discovered that I am strong capable and creative. Every mother has gifts waiting to be unwrapped, take care of your gifts, know that self care is self love, and it can heal all the postpartum wounds. Set your mind free, your babes will thank you for going at a pace that was set best for them, and YOU. 

Motherhood is Sanctifying

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Motherhood is Sanctifying...the term alone is filled with so much meaning. I like to describe it best as, letting motherhood be a purifying experience, one that we allow GOD to take the lead as we follow. 

We were blessed with this amazing coloring book by a fellow BOSSMOM by the name of Jena Holiday. She's the sweet talented mama behind this amazing project. Abide is a coloring book devotional on making room + pressing through in the middle of mommy mayhem. Such a gem, and so necessary to aid in the sanity for mothers from all over. As we know, motherhood comes with all kinds of highs and lows & tons of daily emotions. The Abide coloring book is very relaxing to use along with comforting words to inspire you. What a perfect combination!

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Mama Tribe Talk with Kacey Alexandra

Meet Kacey! She's a wife, mother of two little ladies & blogger behind KAY-ALEX.COM we discovered this sweet mama on Instagram (of course) and we absolutely love the way she represents motherhood. We asked her to share her thoughts on the importance of a "mama tribe", continue reading to check it out!

Momma tribe

I was recently asked what was the best piece of advice I could give a new mom. After some thought, I came up with "build your Momma Tribe." And let me just say, this advice is somewhere up there with "get plenty of rest" and "do what's best for your family."

A little back story: I had my first daughter at the young age of 23. Unmarried, without an established career and in the prime of my twenties. My friends and I were just beginning to enjoy adulthood and the luxuries of making our own money and being able to enjoy it with very little responsibility. Picking out what to wear to the club every Friday night was the hardest life decision for us. Needless to say, we were not thinking about becoming parents.

When my daughter entered the world, a lot changed for me, to include my friendships. I couldn't party like I used to. I couldn't pick up and go. I could barely have a meaningful conversation on the phone without being interrupted by a hungry/tired/ fussy baby. I found that some of my friendships began to falter. Things that bought us together, separated us. Our common interests were thrown out the window and that left little room for the growth of our friendship.

Being a 23 year old mom made me feel isolated. Like no one understood me and where I was in my motherhood journey. Let me also share that my mom passed 6 months after the birth of my daughter. I didn't have anyone I felt comfortable consulting, complaining to or laughing with about parenting. It was beyond frustrating.

I didn't realize how much of a blessing a Momma Tribe would end up being for me. Women who would sit and listen to my proud Mommy moments, answer my "dumb" questions, share parenting hacks, comfort me in my moments of #MommyGuilt, watch the kids, understand my fight with stubborn baby fat and losing the elasticity in my breasts or simply just be there without judgement. I needed ALL of this.

Now, let me say that Momma Tribes are not to be confused with your Village. Everyone has an important role in the Village with a focus on your child. But in the Momma Tribe, the main focus is moral and emotional support for Mom.

My Momma Tribe is an endless sisterhood that extends from the Moms on Instagram who don't know I exist and motivate the heck out of me, to the friends who have become apart of my extended family. These women help to amplify my voice. They are like-minded women who have my back. I'm motivated daily by their strength and drive. It's the Momma-friend who brings over food (or a bottle of wine) because she hears how stressed out you are. The Momma-friend who volunteers to watch the kids so you and your husband can have a night out to enjoy each other without distraction. It's the Momma-friend who has a completely different approach to parenting than you do but still this feeds your spirit with affirmations like "your a great parent!" It's the veteran Momma you consult with more than you do the pediatrician. Down to the Momma-friend who calls to pray over you and your family.

To my Momma Tribe, thanks from the bottom of my heart. Thanks for loving my girls like your own, for understanding my hormonal rants, for checking in on me, for stepping in without question, for making me feel like I'm doing this parenting thing right and that, other than my husband, I'm not in this alone. Motherhood is tough, but so are we... Together.
 

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