How I put the BOSS in BOSSMOM

Tiana is the content curator for Kia Noelle. She's a wife and mother of 4, the kind of mama you meet and instantly feel a sense of sisterhood because of her genuine vibe. Tiana has an amazing way of writing, she makes you feel as if you're sitting in her presence holding an actual conversation. We asked her to talk to us about how she puts the BOSS in BOSSMOM. Here's what she had to share....


So as I’m sitting here trying to decide between tacos and spaghetti for dinner, I can’t help but to think about how freakin dope I am! I mean, not trying to toot my own horn and all, but yeah, that is kind of what I’m trying to do. And I say this. Let me have that, because truth be told, it’s not often that I have an outward expression of pleasure toward my past and present performance as a wife, a mother, and a BOSS. Reality is, that while we are often “pro-us” in public, most times we are “woe-is-me” in private. Unfortunately proving to be harder on ourselves than a little bit. You see, women are lots of things to lots of people, and you know what, that’s okay. However, what’s not okay, is allowing that to put us in a place where we undervalue exactly what we mean to others as a result of trying to be too much to too many.

Biblically, women are not just seen as revered partners and cherished companions to their husbands, but also as creatures worthy of equal relation and praise. If the Bible acknowledges and celebrates the priceless value of a virtuous woman, then certainly so should society. Certainly so should I! I’ll be the first to admit, that there are times when I just don’t think that I do enough. Crazy right?! In addition to making sure that the bills get paid, the babes are okay, hubby is happy, and my own personal and business affairs are in order, I still hold in high regard random pieces of shit that “should” and “could” be done. Yes, I probably “should” and “could” make it happen, however, being a BOSS is something that I have already achieved just simply by dedicating every ounce of me to the things that I’ve already accomplished. Just because I can’t, or choose not to, squeeze in that additional business call or home cooked meal (which by the way, is in addition to the five I’ve already accomplished weekly), doesn’t mean that I am any less of a director, chief, head, manager, or BOSS. It just simply means that I am even more of a BOSS because I choose to preserve the very best parts of me for those things and people in my life who truly deserve it.

Got that? Gorgeous ladies, let us celebrate the fact that on average, we get lots of things done with style and grace, and a majority of the time, with little to no complaints. I, myself, put the BOSS in BOSSMOM in a number of different ways, most of which have already been mentioned. However, quite possibly the most legit way of them all is done simply by knowing when and what to filter so that the best parts of who I am are cleansed, whole, and ready for those that are truly meaningful to me and deserving of it (i.e. Christ, family, passions, and purpose).

At the end of the day, the job of being a BOSSMOM requires no half-assness. So, let’s relax, relate, and release, and go out there and continue to be bomb in our own right. For if you remember to fill your glass with cubes first, then there’s even less of a chance that your drink will begin to spill over. Myself included!