Lessons In Motherhood With Charlotte Betts

 Charlotte and Neriah

Charlotte and Neriah

I recently came across this quote from Bob Keshan which reads as follow:

Parents are the ultimate role models for children. Every word, movement and action has an effect. No other person or outside force has a greater influence on a child than the parent.

But what if the roles were reversed? Being mom to my little ladies has had the greatest impact on my life! They’ve had a great influence on pretty much everything I do and today I’d like to share a few of them with you.

Below are my lessons in motherhood and I would love for you to share a few in the comment section.

Let’s do it!

1.Unconditional love is something I’ve known about through God’s grace in my life and I’m learning about its depth every single day through my daughters. Days aren’t without challenges but my love remains the same.

2.It’s OK to say no.It is impossible to please everybody and in my opinion it’s OK to be selfish when it comes to your child/family’s needs. Trying to please people who are unable to see your efforts is pointless; don’t beat yourself up over it. Someone will always have an opinion or advice to share. Accept that everyone is entitled to theirs and move on.

3.Patience is indeed a virtue, and childrenwill test it, in fact I’m tested everyday. Patience has never been my strong suit and I’ve been praying for it.; the more I pray the more I’m challenged LOL. God’s building me up.

4.The Flow… just go with it. I’m a bit of a control freak. I plan, execute and repeat. Parenthood has changed my controlling ways and I find myself to be a lot more lenient when it comes to certain things. Going with the flow has also allowed me to be in the moment and enjoy every single second.

5.Women are magical! Fearfully and wonderfully made, by a wonderful God who loves us so.! Need I say more? Didn’t think so.

6.It’s the simple things that matter most. I consider myself to be quite a simple person. I don’t take myself too seriously and am pretty nonchalant about many things. I get excited about everything, and I want my daughter to appreciate the smaller things. She smiles when I give her a spoon to play with. A spoon folks! Enabling her to appreciate the small things will make her appreciate the bigger ones.

7.Laugh often It’s good for you, and the people around you. Laugh out loud! Be silly with your children! There’s nothing better.

8.Comparison is the thief of joy. I read that a while ago and I couldn’t agree more. It’s easy to make things “appear” a certain way especially nowadays with social networks. Truth is, most times the ones “on Instagram straight flexin” are doing just that… “flexin”. Do what works for you and never, ever compare yourself to others.Again not everyone is going to like you! Not everyone has good taste ;)

9.Faith is something I’ve always had but, when we welcomed our second child I had to ask for a double portion and I continue to do so. I now know that I’ve been entrusted with the responsibility to be mom to these girls and God will see me through!

10.Words are powerful! I’m mindful of what I say around my child and regardless of how I feel, I’ve learned to always use my words to encourage others. The world is cruel enough and I personally don’t think that there is any victory in someone’s ability to have an unfiltered mouth. Your tongue is your most powerful tool and it’s wise to use it to edify as opposed to do the opposite. As a parent I lead by example, being nice is not an option, it is mandatory in our household.

And there you have it folks, what are some of your lessons in motherhood?