When you become a mother it's very natural to feel guilty when you make a little time for yourself. Not only is there the overwhelming sense of love you have for your child but the fact this little being is completely dependent on you.
As women (and men) there are a few things that can be done to support me time for mothers. I write from experience and encourage other mothers and fathers to contribute to the conversation.
Support - Some have more support than others from family and friends. I for one don't have much support from family but then again I don't like to ask or take offers from friends. There's no harm in taking people up on offers for help and don't be afraid to ask for help if you need it. It doesn't make you a bad mother.
Don't judge - For my own sanity I'm a big believer of me time. I don't judge others for spending all their time with their children and appreciate it when others don't judge me for taking time away from my children. There's nothing worse than aguilt trip from your closest family and friends.
Conversation - Parenting isn't easy and the hurdles don't get easier if partners don't take the time to talk to each other and discuss matters of parenthood or a little time out. In the first year of having my eldest daughter my husband and I agreed that we'd each get a 2 week holiday to ourselves for a little time out from the family grind. After my daughter turned 1, I jet setted to Hawaii with my girlfriend. It was amazing!
Trust - I understand it can be difficult to go out and leave your children with their dad's but what's the worse that can happen. Messy house? Dirty nappies? Partners will learn if you let them.
Thanks for reading and lets unite more and judge less.